Overall Fantastic

So today I was just on my way to Sonic, minding my own business when all of the sudden CPS worker calls me and wants to come out to visit Brittany today.....yea thats right....today. She is on her way and will be here in an hour. I anxiously ask if I can meet her there since I hadn't even met this woman I am supposed to be going to court with in two weeks to try and adopt Brittany. She reluctantly says "yes, sure if you want. " So I say "That's what I thought, bitch. Suck it up." in my head at least.

I arrive 30 mintues early, bearly shoving down the nasty hamburger and onion rings and wiping off my grease ring around my mouth. I do this so she doesn't arrive early drop off the papers I have been waiting 2 months for and blow out of huffman like a bat out of hell only to report to CPS that the daycare has a smoking lounge next to the changing tables.

There are about 10 kids in one dark room...sleeping. Of course, its freaking 12:30. They sleep until 2:30. I meet her outside and shake her hand. She parks right next to the biggest mud puddle in the parking lot. She looks an awful lot like that hispanic lady on Housewives. She's kinda cute and sassy. She has a big headband in her gigantic brown perfect curly hispanic hair. No wonder she is the devil.

We go inside and she still wants to check her "for bruising" So I led her in the room and she tried to lift up her shirt but decided it was not such a good idea and didn't want to wake her up and said "never mind its fine, I am sure she doesn't have any" and walked out of the room. The director was not particularly happy about this since she was trying to control a room of sleeping children. I followed her to the next room where we sat down at a little kids table and signed the authorization and placement papers.


And then a miracle happened. We talked.

She went on to ask how long we had been fostering and I told her Brittany was our first. She asked if we wanted to adopt again and I told her our plan was to wait the required year from Depelchin before we foster to adopted again. She then went on to say that the parents might voluntarily relinquish their rights and then something really important about the mom that I can't write but was so insane I immediantly called Jeff after the visit.

She said if they do wave their rights she will let us know before court and that court will not be near as long. She also said if this happens then we will get to adopt Brittany no doubt. But if they do not relinquish then court will probably take all day and they might have to do another broadcast and that CPS wants recommendations for Brittany and that its up to her and CASA to put in recommendations but I probably have nothing to worry about since she is pretty sure the parents are going to wave their rights.

She said at court they will ask us if we want to adopt, a timeline of the smoking thing, and will want to see pictures and her lifebook and anything that would help show her time with us.

THEN I started telling her how wonderfully Brittany is adjusting and how amazed I am when I read about milestones and she is just perfectly on target. She added by saying this is only the 3rd youngest kid she has seen be adopted and the rest were always older so how great that is for us.

And then the miracle happened. Before it had she was looking away from me when we talked.
It was not until we got on the subject she looked me in the eye

God smiled and his light shone down upon me right between her rolling her eyes and the words falling out of my mouth. "We have done alot to adopt. Just last year we did IVF...twice"

"Oh really, I am in my 2WW right now!" Oh my freaking GOD!

We went into alot of detail about our experiences we talked for like 30 minutes about the ups and downs and shot pains and emotional roller coaster and the losing your mind of it all. I gave her tips and she agreed with everything I said. It was magical and we had a moment. I let her know this is why we started smoking again, when it didn't work. I feel like I just really connected with her and she understands us alot better then she had. I am so glad it was brought up. She can now totally relate to the stress and anxiety we went thru. She said she couldn't imagine not being able to have kids and then it not working so she sees the importance of us wanting to adopt Brittany. THANK YOU GOD! She has one boy and her husband has a boy but they don't have any together and have been trying for 3 years. Her husbands insurance paid for it. Home girl went into detail. I am telling you....M...A.....G....I....C.


Then as fast as she came she left.

She had also asked if I had talked to Mrs Russell (Brittany's attorney) and I told her only on the phone when she was in her office a couple of weeks ago. I think she mentioned this because of the parents waving their rights. I don't know.

I do know I am glad I made her meet me. And I believe she knows there is no way we would go thru hell and back to be bad parents to Brittany.

Here's praying to a smooth adoption ride. Come on guys...just sign the papers.